First Look, or No First Look?
Your Guide to Decide Whether a First Look is Right For You
What is a First Look?
A first look is a private moment before the ceremony where the couple sees each other for the first time in their wedding attire. It’s a modern tradition that contrasts with the more traditional reveal that happens during the ceremony.
Pros of Doing a First Look
Emotional Intimacy:
-You can have this private moment before the ceremony, just the two of you without a crowd
-Helps relieve pre-ceremony nerves
More Photos:
-Allows more time for portraits in the daylight
-Your photographer can capture those raw, genuine reactions without a time crunch
Timeline Efficiency:
-You can take your couple, wedding party and even family photos before the ceremony
-More time to enjoy your cocktail hour (instead of missing it to take photos)
Cons of Doing a First Look
Breaks Tradition:
-Some couples prefer the suspense and surprise of seeing each other for the first time at the altar
-Can feel less meaningful if you’re attached to the “walking down the aisle” reveal
Earlier Start Time:
-You’ll need to be ready earlier, which could mean an earlier wake-up and prep time.
Logistics and Set Up:
-Requires coordination with the venue and photographer for a private, photogenic location
Alternatives to a Traditional First Look
First Touch: Hold hands around a corner or door without seeing each other
Letters: Write/read heartfelt letters from each other
First Look with Parent or Wedding Party: Share a moment with a parent, sibling or bridesmaids
You’re short on time or live far away from your venue
Questions to Ask Before Deciding
How important are private moments to us on our wedding day?
What does our timeline look like?
Will a first look help calm our nerves?
Do we want to prioritize tradition or efficiency?
Tips If You Choose a First Look
Schedule 15-30 minutes for it
Have tissues on hand-tears happen
Choose a secluded, quiet location
Involve your photographer in planning the timing and location
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